The Courage to Take the Time for Self Care

Women are not very good at self care. Mothers are horrible at self care. Doulas, and others in the compassion and service fields, are even worse at self care.

I am a mother of 3 small kids. I am a doula. I am 3/3 in the “bad at self care” department. I never really gave it much stock, for myself. I was strong enough.

Then it happened. My body said, enough. What will you do when you can’t eat? What will you do when you cannot stand? What will you do when you cannot see?

Is holding your stress inside to monumental proportions to preserve your image worth more than admitting you cannot do it all and taking a step back? The answer should be NO. But is it?

When you truly look at yourself, are you willing to say that you are important? That your health matters? That without self care you cannot go on? I wasn’t so I pushed more! 

How do you rest? What does that even look like? Let me tell you, it is not one 2 hour afternoon on the beach. That may help for a moment but not long term. 

That doesn’t heal your worn-down body. It is time. Time to eat. Time to learn how to eat. Time to connect. Time to talk. Time to go to an exercise class.